I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ME
Why do people treat books as mirrors?
I recently came across a post by Elizabeth Bluemle at the Publisher’s Weekly site entitled “The New Literal Mind” (link to the full post, and comments that follow, given at the foot of this essay). Elizabeth writes, amongst other things:
“I’ve noticed a strange trend among grandparents these days, and sometimes among parents: the tendency to reject a book for not being specifically, literally, representative of their child’s world.”
Parents or grandparents apparently look at a book – its cover, to be more precise – and come up with reasons why their child or grandchild won’t want to read it. The kid’s a country kid, and the book is set in the city – or vice versa. The kid has a brother, and not a sister (like the character in the book) – or vice versa. Most damningly at all, the “Oh, I don’t think he’ll really be interested in THAT” comment when the skin colour of the child depicted on the book cover doesn’t happen to match the precise hue of the potential reader of said book.
That neatly connects with another trend that has seen a lot of Internet exposure recently – the blog posts of a whole bunch of people, particularly people of colour, about how they could never “find themselves” in the books that they were given to read as children..
And that brings me to the brink of something that I do comprehend as a concept but which I completely fail to understand on a visceral level.
Why are all these people so bent on treating books as mirrors? Why is the value of a book measured by how much of oneself – in an absolutely literal sense – one can “find” in it? I have never picked up a single book with the purpose of looking for multiple incarnations of me – but, instead, I’ve sought new things, new experiences, new ideas, landscapes I might never see in real life, people I might never meet, and people I might be fascinated with but would not remotely want to actually BE. I have never picked up a fantasy book with a dragon on the cover and expected to find a clone of me riding the dragon by page five.
When I read a book, I’m not looking for me.
Look at (a random selection of) books which have touched my life.
“Little Women” by Louisa May Alcott: at the time I first read that, I was still a young kid living in Europe. American history was not remotely familiar as such, not in detail, and the context of the March family’s lives might as well have been on a different planet. But with the one possible exception of going “Oh! She writes too!” when I met Jo March, I have never identified with any of the sisters. Meg is entirely too holier-than-thou (which I never was), Amy annoyed the snot out of me, Beth made me cry but I am not sure that she would not have been too precious to live with if I ever had to do it in real life, and even fellow-writer Jo often went off the rails and did things I did not approve of. I did not wade into the book desperately seeking a reflection of myself, and I was not put out when I did not find one. Did that stop me from enjoying the book and from loving my early copy of it literally to pieces? No, it did not. And if the cover on it had been anything to do with choosing it I would never have had it at all – because oh, these were AMERICAN characters who ran around wearing long dresses and white gloves none of which was remotely familiar to me so in other words these were the equivalent of “city” characters being thrown at a “country” child.
Any book of China, by Pearl Buck: my mother had a set of these and I read them, in translation, when I was pretty young. The books were old-fashioned hardcovers with slipcovers on them – the slipcovers are long since gone but as I recall a lot of collected-edition type books of that era basically had the title and the author’s name on the cover and very little else so relying on the cover art to determine whether I would “find myself” in these books never arose – but even if there was a Chinese girl on every cover that would not have prevented me from picking up such a book because, well, it had a Chinese character on the cover and I was not Chinese. I was not seeking myself in those books – I was getting thoroughly and enchantingly lost in a world not my own, where characters did not think or behave as I would have thought or behaved, where the rules were different and everything was rich and strange.
“Through Desert and Jungle”, by Henryk Sienkiewicz: Yes, I am a European child and I read European authors. Sienkiewicz was a Polish writer – of adult historical novels – who happens to be a Nobel Prize winner; he wrote a book for what would these days be considered a YA audience, which was a cornerstone of my mother’s growing up, and then mine, and then I gave the book as a present to my young nieces when THAT generation came up to the point of demanding things to read. I loved that book. I love it today, still. It concerns the adventures of a young English girl and a young Polish boy, children of Suez engineers in Egypt, who are snatched as hostages to be exchanged for persons being held by the colonial government during the Mahdi rising. The kids ride on camels across the desert in the moonlight; they are thrown into the chaos of conquered Khartoum; they are tossed out again in search of someone who would know what to do with them; they escape, and in their travels they cross from the Sahara into the near-equatorial jungles and savannahs, meeting lions, and elephants, and warring black tribespeople into whose path they blunder, and dying explorers, and malaria, and they live in hollowed out baobab trees, and oh GOD it is wonderful stuff. I first read this book years before I, too, stepped onto African soil – and even after I had done this my own experience of Africa was far, far different than those of the two protags of this book (thank Heaven…) To this day I have never been in Northern Africa, the Arabian part of Africa, Egypt or Algeria or Libya or Morocco; I have never seen the pyramids, the dunes of the Sahara, the Nile, or the Suez canal. I may or may not get to do this in the future. There was NOTHING of me in that book when I read it – I was not English, I was not Polish, I had never been to Cairo or seen the desert or experienced the humidity of equatorial jungle or set eyes on a living elephant. But I plunged into the story which has now held three generations of my family’s girls, and I had one hell of a ride.
But all of those are more or less “real” contexts, in the sense that although they were unfamiliar at least they were possible, they existed somewhere out there on this planet which turned with me upon it. What of true fantasy? If it is true that you need to find yourself in a book of fiction in order to enjoy it or even accept it, how did true fantasy ever even get a toe in the water?
The Hobbit, by J R R Tolkien: There are no such things as dragons. Or trolls. Or dwarven kings under the mountain. Or hobbits, for that matter. And there are no characters in that list which I could identify with, even remotely. Oh, I have always aspired to be an Elf, but I can no more be Tolkien’s Luthien than I can be Cinderella – both are creatures of the imagination.
Yes, before people point out the obvious, I am aware of archetypes, and people possibly identifying with an ARCHETYPE of a character rather than the character themselves. But I ask, again – where does Imagination come into this? Curiosity? An itch to discover things that are outside one’s own purview, things that one might never see or smell or touch in reality but which become all the more real because they take such firm and potent root inside the potent imaginary scenery of our own minds and hearts? Isn’t this what books are FOR – the chance to imagine something that had been unimaginable, to look out onto the world through a pair of eyes which might perceive it differently from our own?
Do people seeking to find themselves and only themselves in a story – people who dismiss the story as inadequate, for whatever reason, if they cannot – really believe that a child is incapable of imagining the things that are not spelled out for it? If that is the case I despair for the human race because it is wonder and imagination, the kind nurtured in very young children, which has taken us this far – and which may still be the only thing that will carry us forward.
Elizabeth Bluemle writes:
“As a child growing up in the sand-colored deserts of Arizona, I loved reading about kids in New York City, or the swamps of the south. I did enjoy the odd book about my own landscape, in part because there were so few of them, but if I’d limited myself to books about kids like me in a setting like mine, I’d have likely been bored, for one thing, and grown up with a very narrow world view, for another. I was living my life; the magic of books lay in getting to live someone else’s.”
A commenter by the name of Gail Gauthier then comes in from a completely different direction:
“I think one of our reasons for reading is to connect with someone–the author or characters we believe to be like ourselves. Even when we’re reading to try out different lives, I think there’s usually something about the book that we connect to. We think a character is like ourselves or like someone we’d like to be. Or something is happening in the book that has some significance for us.”
As a reader – then (as a child) and now (as an adult) – I am not sure that Gail Gauthier’s comment speaks for me. I did NOT enter a book seeking a character I believed to be like myself, or even particularly want one. The “something about the book that [we] connect to” that Gail speaks of has always, for me, been the STORY. A story lived by characters whom I could believe were living it. It did not matter in the least whether or not the character was “like me” or not – and preferably it would be someone not like me at all, someone whose own take on life and their own particular worldview would be sufficiently UNLIKE me to teach me something which I had until that moment not known or been capable of knowing.
Elizabeth Bluemle continues:
“We have many missions as booksellers, but it’s a strange world when one of them is the need to defend children’s curiosity and imagination against the instincts of some of their most loving and well-intentioned guardians. “
To which I can only give a resounding AMEN. Let’s keep the books as portals, as gateways into the unknown, as a magic carpet which can take us to lands unknown and perils unnumbered, where we can go wearing someone else’s skin – learning what it means to be HUMAN, as opposed to just being ourselves. There are enough mirrors surrounding us all our lives in which we can peer short-sightedly and see only our own faces – there are more and more every day, and often life does seem, in an eerie and tragic way, to be lived inside a carnival fun-house where there’s nothing BUT mirrors to surround us. A book, a good story, is a doorway out into the green meadows of summer, into the dunes of a yellow desert, out into the stars. Leave the mirrors behind. Let’s stop trying to find ourselves in other people. Let us, instead, try to find other people in ourselves.
Full text of the Bluemle blog post, complete with commentary:
http://www.publishersweekly.com/blog/660000266/post/770045677.html
It’s almost always rewarding to learn something new, and your recent piece did a fine job of enlightening me about the practice of persons choosing books based on a primary factor of it including a character that “mirrors” an intended reader. What a surprise. What a collosal waste. I can’t think of a single instance when I had even a thought of looking for a character like me or a situation like mine when choosing a book. I’ve always been partial to the saying that “there are whole new worlds to be found in books.” Book givers who use a mirror criterion are not doing their book receivers favors they might think they are.
Interesting subject and and a well-presented argument.
Bob
Hmmmm. I agree with you on the problematic parental trend, but I wouldn’t conflate it with the issue of color. I certainly don’t speak for anybody but myself, and IANAPOC, but I think the issue here isn’t one of imagination and empathy. White experience of various sorts is plenty familiar, to the point where for some readers that’s all they’ve been able to find, and the problem is that it’s exclusionary: representation is a form of validation, so if your experience is consistently not represented, then what message does that convey but that it isn’t valid? It’s erased from the (imaginary) world. There’s a big difference between choosing to read about life in frontier America because you’re a New York City kid whose idea of wilderness is Central Park, and reading about white kids in frontier America or modern New York or futuristic space stations because that’s the only choice you have. One is liberating; the other is not.
I agree with Marie. I’ve always felt comfortable reading books with characters from all cultures and of either gender, and I agree with you that we should encourage that. It’s a shame, for instance, that some people feel a boy won’t read a book where the protagonist is a girl. If you’re arguing for diversity in the reading experience, then I’m all for that.
But when minority groups complain about not seeing enough characters like themselves in the media presented to them, they’re not asking for less diversity, they’re asking for more of it. It’s not that I don’t like reading about protestant white guys; it’s that I’d like to see a bit more than that. I’d like, as a parent and a teacher and, heck, as a writer, to avoid giving the impression that only protestant white guys do things that matter. And yeah, as a kid, it would have been nice to occasionally see latino kids mattering in the stories I read.
Heck, one thing that infuriates me about movies set in my hometown of Miami is how rarely you see latino characters–until we get to the drug dealer, who invariably is latino.
As Marie noted, never seeing anybody who resembles you at all in the popular culture you consume, especially as a kid, tells you that your point of view is lacking, that your culture or gender is not something to be celebrated.
For me the issue is not about restricting what kids read, but encouraging writers to create a little more diversity.
Marie, Jose – this is what I mean when I said, in the essay above, that this is “something that I do comprehend as a concept but which I completely fail to understand on a visceral level”.
Yes, I COMPLETELY agree that there should be a diversity of characters out there, and that there is a painful need for books with those characters. The thing about the beginnings of the popular printed “fiction” book, as opposed to things like Bibles and stuff like that, is that the printing press turned up in Europe, and thus stuff which was of a more popular nature began to be collected and printed and distributed to a mass market in Europe. This meant that it was by its very nature either comprehensively Eurcentric or, when not, painfully wrong (like Karl May’s “Winnetou” books, which I confess freely to have enjoyed hugely as a kid but which bear very little resemblance to the life and nature of REAL Native Americans). Cultures outside that European milieu have rich storytelling traditions indeed – but fewer of them were printed in popular book form, and it was done later, so that whole world of literature is playing catch-up with the bulk that came before (in the beginning, at least, written largely by old (and now long dead) dead white men).
*THIS WILL NOT CHANGE* so long as there are no stories with protagonists of colour actually being written – or collected – and published and put out there. There IS a readership, and a bigger one that people might imagine – the whole essay I wrote underlines the fact that I have always treated books as portals of passage into rich new worlds (for me), and if such worlds opened up with stories with roots in Polynesian mythology, or India, or Japan, or the Amazon rainforest, I would be amongst the first in line to read them. But until those who write about the lack of such stories actually get out there and write them for the rest of us, they remain locked away in the vaults marked “unobtainable”, and are perhaps being lost, because the oral traditions of a lot of cultures whose storytelling depends on those are dying out with the generations who are leaving us. I would go so far as to say that there is an urgent need to have these stories out there and available/accessible to a wider range of humanity.
But having said that – and with a completely Utopian prospect of having ALL of the stories available to EVERYBODY – would the people seeking themselves in books still seek out the things that leave them in their own comfort zones, that leave them feeling pleasant and secure and safe and that form the boundaries within which they define themselves and their existence, or would they seek out the different, the new, the (sometimes) uncomfortable, the (every so often) enraging, because it stirs in them the sense of how much richness there is in the world that surrounds us?…
I’ve never looked for ‘people like me’ (and ‘people who look like me/fit my demographic’ doesn’t cut it anyway). but I think it’s important that all kinds of people are represented, and all kinds of stories are told. And I think there’s a qualitative difference between not wanting to read about people who match your demographic, and not being represented at all, or being represented only as negative stereotypes: as uncultured, evil, stupid; as people who need to be fought and wiped out and stopped from bringing down civilisation, when said civilisation is always carried by white Anglo-Saxon males. (And what is it with fantasy worlds containing more plain English names than my homecounties village neighbourhood?)
So, for me, a call for more PoC/settings based not on pseudo-medieval societies fit in well with ‘I want to experience things I don’t already know’ – it’s about allowing others to share those experiences.
Alma–My thoughts about readers seeking community when they read were influenced by a couple of articles I stumbled upon a number of years ago about an anthropologist named Victor Turner. In the 1960s and 70s he was interested in individuals in the process of change and suggested that once individuals had changed, they sought community with a group. An obvious example would be adolescents–they are changing from children to adults. While they’re in the process of changing, they are neither. Once they’ve changed, they become part of the adult community. Presumably.
Evidently in the 1980s, some anthropological theories were applied to literature. Reading was discussed as an activity that changes the reader. People are frequently different as a result of their reading. They often feel a sense of community with characters or even with authors.
I don’t think any of this caught on in a big way, but it works for me. It makes reading a highly personal and individualistic activity, and, therefore, in my world view, at least, reading preferences should be respected. A parent or grandparent going into a bookstore and shopping for a young family member may very well be respecting that youngster’s preferences when looking for only certain types of books. That’s not to say kids should never be exposed to anything new. But there’s a time and place for supporting their choices, too.
I don’t think most of us intentionally look for ourselves in our reading. In hindsight, though, I think a lot of us can see patterns to our reading choices. And those patterns become a sort of reading community that we’ve become part of.