Thomas Sullivan: A RED SHIRT, MOLASSES IN A FEATHERED WORLD, & THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WALL
“Don’t worry. I forgot your name too.” That’s what my red T-shirt proclaims. I don’t wear it to be funny. I wear it out of fear. Names zip into and out of my ears like grease through a goose. I’m dense as a box of rocks when it comes to retaining that most basic of labels. Given that I’ve mingled in mobs most of my life, this is a major problem. I use the term “mobs” lovingly – referring to coaching, teaching, a stint as city commissioner, writing & public speaking, and just generally rolling along like a drop of misplaced molasses in a feathered world. Used to beat up on myself over my inability to remember names. Sheer arrogance, I thought. Which is what the nameless victims of my selective amnesia had a right to feel about me. But I’ve come to believe it is anything but arrogance. Moreover, I think it underlies a critical author skill.
Mmm. Skill. Maybe that’s wishful thinking. Okay, an author focus. But critical. Definitely that. Because the reason I don’t catch names is that I am intensely focused on whatever is coming at me below the verbal level. When I first meet someone my attention is like an iceberg, 7/8ths beneath the surface of what they are saying. I will notice minute psychological details, mannerisms, gestures, expressions, verbal clues behind spoken words — tone, repetitions, hesitations, any pattern — the choices the person makes as indicated by their appearance, where their attention drifts, their responses, fears, wants, ad infinitum. I am overwhelmed with information to process. But I am unlikely to remember their name. Whether I do the below-ground noticing with any particular insight, or even accurately, does not really matter, I suppose, as far as being an author. The relevant thing is that I am engaged in perceiving people, and whether I’m spot-on in what I see or simply inventing stuff it all goes into the bit bucket of my imagination and mental filing cabinet for new characters.
It does matter, however, that I do this without being threatening or judgmental. After all, if I’m going to learn anything, I need to be trusted and accepted as capable of understanding. Moreover, what I personally want is to know truth. In human relations it is very hard not to unconsciously cue people as to what you want or expect. And so we end up with anything but truth, namely lip service, false testimonials, and illusions presented to us by those with whom we interact. The deepest human passions and the darkest secrets reveal themselves best when they come at you without being bidden in any way. Create an expectation for them and you will likely get what you wanted rather than truth. So dialing back on your persuasiveness and repressing your subtle expectations as best you can makes learning truths possible. Authors need to have that objective mode, if only so they can give back truth in their writings.
Permit me to double down here. Last month I received a large amount of e-mail pertaining to that column about my stay in a Dominican slum (http://storytellersunplugged.com/thomassullivan/2010/07/16/thomas-sullivan-skinny-dogs-skinny-chickens-skinny-people-or-how-to-blow-the-cap-on-your-own-deep-water-well-and-free-your-imagination/ ). I promised to follow through with more info about that, and I’ll do it here by way of illustrating the above points – it was a time of truth-gathering for me.
Poverty wracked Villa Esfuerzo, where people may sit ankle-deep in water in their one-room shotgun shacks as slashing rains come through, has its outposts of security behind razor wire and iron bars. There was a wall and iron bars around where we slept. Beyond the wall roosters crowed all night and local children gathered in silent packs to watch us through the bars as we talked of profound things or sang the evenings away. This mute audience bothered me greatly. Children shout, children move and make noise, children laugh. Not these. They stood barefoot in their worn shirts and shorts and watched and watched and watched in total stillness as we moved and laughed. They stood as if they were watching an irresistible movie. It haunted me. It still haunts me. The first time I saw them I was reminded of a home-made movie I saw years ago taken of some stone-age hunters in Borneo who had never visited civilization but were taken to a modern airport where they stood in silence outside a chain link fence watching giant airplanes land and take-off. During WWII these same hunters had aided marines who had come in planes and given them chocolate. When the war ended the natives built a crude narrow runway and erected a model plane lure and lit the sides of the runway with torches at night while they watched the skies for a return. They watched and waited for decades. And here they stood in their feathered finery and fierce face paint, looking very small before the soaring airliners on the other side of the chain link. What were they thinking? What did these children here now in the Dominican think?
Every night that they came I went to the iron bars and in broken Spanish tried to talk to them. I asked them their names. And, of course, I don’t remember any of them. Well…one. I remember one. Juanita. All the same I was searching for answers, for clues as to what they felt and how they would remember our presence in their world and what that might tell them about the rest of the planet. My concentration was as fierce as the Borneo hunters’ faces, but I could glean nothing. Nada. They watched expressionlessly through the bars or smiled shyly when I talked to them — the older boys hanging back a little warily — and that was it. Not a clue. They came each night by climbing a second stone wall into a kind of garden that I had jokingly dubbed “the tarantula badlands” because we had hunted down the giant hairy spiders there one night. They seemed so transitory – these watchers. Impossible in eternity. I wanted to open those gates and bring them in. Did they sense that? Have they forgiven me for not finding a way to include them? Ah, vanity. I want to be forgiven. That’s the kind of liberal guilt I can’t stand. Love is what you give, not what you get.
Lots more to tell, but no space to tell it. Well. Actually I’ve been saying it a lot lately face to face with people. So, I’ll tell you what. If there’s enough interest in this, as there was last month, I’ll go one more column with something else from the Dominican adventure. Maybe that’s how I’ll take some of the bars down and exorcise my vanity of conscience.
There are new photos from the DR adventure in the August Sullygram (newsletter) being released today — e-mail me at mn333mn@earthlink.net and I’ll send it to you along with July’s Dominican photos. You’ll also find archived copies of Sullygams w/pictures on my author’s web site, though the latest one is always slightly delayed so that it can include a Permalink to this column.
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Thomas “Sully” Sullivan
